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The My Story, My Terms workshop for survivors is designed to support individuals who want to use their voice as a tool for personal, political, or social change.


What is the workshop?

My Story, My Terms is a transformative storytelling workshop that provides a safe space for survivors to reclaim their stories and experiences–on their own terms. The workshop focuses on developing writing and storytelling skills; takes a trauma-informed approach to writing, sharing and healing; and provides insight on how to navigate the process of sharing one’s story.

The workshop is free for survivors of sexual assault who are accepted into the program, and survivors receive a small stipend to cover any costs associated with participating.

In four sessions led by experienced educators, social workers, and storytelling experts, participants will learn about and participate in:

1. The Power and Science of Storytelling

Participants will learn that storytelling is a skill that can be developed and used as a tool for a powerful effect. They will participate in interactive writing exercises and learn the guiding principles of trauma recovery, including opportunities to reclaim power and share their story. 

2. Understanding the Stages of Writing, Healing & Compassionate Reframing

Participants will be taught skills to reprocess their experience from a safe place, learn Marinella’s five stages of writing and healing, and be able to confront their trauma at a self-directed speed and flourish in their writing of their own story on their own terms.  

3. Using the Power of Your Resilient Voice to Bring Your Own Words to Life

Participants will give their own perspective to their experience and its relation to the rest of their life by constructing their own narrative of what occurred in a way that allows them to confront trauma, process, and heal. Participants will discover new ways to sustain and build resilience.

4. Storytelling Ceremony and Celebration

Participants will be given an opportunity to tell their story to the group, if they choose to do so. In closing, the group will celebrate their work and their journey in a celebratory ceremony including interactive activities and reflection.

 

“For me, participating in My Story, My Terms, was like being thrown a lifeline in the middle of processing and healing from sexual trauma. Each week I looked forward to working with a group of highly trained individuals who helped me write and speak candidly about my experience. I felt so supported and cared for at NOW, and it helped me gain a better perspective on the injustices that took place during and after my abuse. The storytelling workshop was such a wonderful gift, and I would give it 100 times over if I could.”

– M.H., Program Participant

Who can participate?

This program is for women (cis or trans), femaleidentifying, non-binary, or gender nonconforming individuals who are survivors of sexual assault.

Participants must also be:

  • 18 years or older
  • currently supported by counseling services
  • able to read and write in English on a third grade level 
  • able to attend every session of the workshop

We cannot accept participants who:

  • are currently engaged in any ongoing civil or criminal litigation
  • have any current acute mental health issues or recent experience with self-harm, suicidal ideation or behaviors.

All participants will undergo a confidential screening process with a licensed, trauma-informed therapist prior to being accepted into the program. The program is free for all accepted participants. In fact, participants who complete all four sessions receive a stipend to cover any costs associated with participating.

 

Two ways to apply:

  1. Be referred by a therapist, counselor, or service provider. Service providers can recommend a client by completing the online or paper application below. If paper is preferred, please print, scan and return to [email protected].
  2. Refer yourself by emailing your contact information, including a phone number and best times to reach you, and a brief statement of interest to [email protected].

Upcoming sessions:

Applications for our Spring 2022 cohorts are now closed. If you have questions or would like to join our waitlist for upcoming sessions, please contact [email protected].

As of now, sessions are being held on four consecutive Thursday evenings online.

“I learned that my story has power – that it can help other survivors heal and validate their experiences, as well as be used as an education tool. [I learned] that our stories can have multiple audiences, and we don’t have to put our trauma out there in the ways we think people need it. Instead, we get to choose how we tell our stories, which also allows us to take some of our power back.”

– A.F., Program Participant

 

Meet Our Facilitators:

Claire T. McCue

Claire T. McCue is a trauma-informed forensic social worker and doctoral candidate at the Graduate Center of the City University of New York. She has served as an Adjunct Professor at the Silberman Graduate School of Social Work at Hunter College for eight years where she taught Human Behavior in the Social Environment and mentored Graduate Students entering the field as trauma specialists. Additionally, Claire taught social work and sociology classes with an emphasis on understanding the impact of human-induced violence on individuals at the City University of New York Graduate Center, College of Staten Island, and Wagner College. During her 20+ year career in social work, Claire has worked in direct care, supervisory, and training capacities at social service and legal service organizations, serving survivors of gender-based violence and trauma in New York City. She developed a specialization in providing psychodynamically-oriented treatment for survivors of incest, sexual and physical abuse, and family violence.

Christine Vargo

Christine Vargo is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), a Certified Gestalt Therapist and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator – Clinician. Christine has worked in various settings and capacities for more than 20 years for non-profit organizations in NYC and Washington, DC. With experience in administration and as a clinician, Christine brings a range of skills to her work including, management, public speaking, and group work. Now in private practice, Christine utilizes a present centered, experiential approach that strives to connect clients with their mind, body and spirit. Christine invites her clients to practice identifying and increasing awareness of the patterns and defenses no longer serving them. Working with her clients to unravel the core beliefs that are keeping them stuck, Christine strives to offer them tools and skills to develop a practice in living with clear boundaries, integrity, self-compassion, and gratitude. Christine’s mission is to help clients develop a deep connection with themselves and transform how they can live with purpose and passion. Additional information about Christine and her current offerings are listed on her website www.christinevargo.com.

Roxanna 'Roxy' Azari

Roxanna ‘Roxy’ Azari is an Iranian-American spoken word poet, performer, storyteller, and educator. She serves as an Adjunct Lecturer for the Women's and Gender Department at Hunter College and a Storytelling Coach for Story2. Holding a BA in English Literature: Creative Writing and Women’s Studies from Wheaton College (MA) and an MSc in Gender, Development and Globalization from the London School of Economics, Roxy infuses her academic background with her visions of challenging social, political, and economic inequalities. As a former Thomas J. Watson Fellowship recipient, Roxy created and facilitated writing and performance workshops with young women in the Middle East, Europe, North Africa, and South-East Asia. Azari combines her passion of art and activism by leading nation-wide performances and writing workshops for participants to explore and utilize their voices. Roxy has featured as a performer in spaces such as Madison Square Garden, Off-Broadway, the United Nations, PBS, World Channel, the Nuyorican Poets Cafe, and colleges nationwide.

Christina Marie Castro

Christina Marie Castro is a Nuyorican multi-genre writer and academic. Christina holds an MFA in Creative Writing and is completing her graduate study in Women's and Gender Studies at SUNY Empire State College. A native New Yorker of Puerto Rican descent, she studies Puerto Rican social welfare and economics, Nuyorican/Diasporican literature and history, as well as feminism/women’s history and trauma theory with a focus on violence against women. Christina continuously hones her writing and editorial craft while teaching, researching and editing. Beginning January 2022, Christina joined the Women and Gender Studies Department of Hunter College as an Adjunct Lecturer teaching Introduction to Women's and Gender Studies. In her career pivot to higher education, Christina has counseled college students as an academic/career advisor, academic program specialist, creative writing peer editor, and writing tutor. Now, as a Storytelling Educator at My Story, My Terms, she marries her passion for storytelling with her passion for supporting fellow survivors of sexual assault and influencing healing and community building through survivor circles. She believes in and works toward a future free from gender-based violence.

“It was literally life changing: sharing my sloppy draft of a narrative and being BELIEVED.”

-E., Program Participant